She took it really well and told me that while she didnt reciprocate, she still loved me as a friend. aboredperson, "She started a family and never spoke to me again. 
Are you displacing some other feelings for another person? I thought about him often. Viewing 5 posts - 1 through 5 (of 5 total), Recovering the Loss of a Very Close Friend, This topic has 3 replies, 3 voices, and was last updated, This topic was modified 8 years, 2 months ago by, This reply was modified 8 years, 2 months ago by. WebIf you do need to say anything well, the best thing is to say hey, I realize things are a little awkward right now, but I want you to know, it's all good and I'm willing to power through the awkward if you are. And then just drop the subject. She told me a month back that she actually had a romantic crush on me during our high school days . She was my favorite person to be around, and one day coming back from a long trip for school she fell asleep on my shoulder. Ive been friends with this girl for about a year and a half now and weve grown really close. Will it pass? Can you really see them as a romantic partner? Her behavior really put me off to the point where not only did I lose feelings, but I wasnt even sure that I wanted to stay friends with her. 
Also, I understood the fact that she was just trying to come clean butthe fact that she told me this kind of makes me angry. ", "I fell in love very deeply with my high school best friend, and I didnt even notice it until after we graduated and she moved hours away to study at another university. My friend once confessed to a girl he's liked for 1.5 years. I sent her a text asking what was up. One night after we had been drinking, she just straight-up asked, 'Why aren't we hooking up?' I know this may sound strange but it's true. ", "I had just started 10th grade in a new high school full of strangers. The ridiculousness of you and this post, Jesus Christ. Your guilt will only get worst. She was the first girl I fell in love with, and every day I regret the way our friendship ended. WebI am 16M and my best friend is almost 16F. We talked so often over the past few months that I'm going to feel very lonely without being able to talk to her. Since then Ive been in therapy (other reasons: I have some sort of anxiety&depression illness). Maybe youll go on a date and realize it wasnt meant to be. I was in a difficult relationship at the time, so often went to her place. 2. I'm lost about how to fix this. Primary Menu. Help? Its that time of the day again. WebLet me explain I really love my guy best friend and he also cares a lot for me, but it doesn't seem to happen at the same level, so I guess he does not have romantic feelings for me. The content on Tiny Buddha is designed to support, not replace, medical or psychiatric treatment. Its that time of the day again. Coincidentally, she also happens to be straight. I retracted the invite and that was the last time we ever spoke. The bottom line is that he will never be with me. e_a0025, "Hes now married, and I took it hard when it happened. 4. It drives me nuts that I'll never know if he said those things because he was drunk or if something could have actually happened between us." Read iDiva for the latest in Bollywood, fashion looks, beauty and lifestyle news. A couple months later, she told me she had a new boyfriend and would still come to the wedding, but was struggling to book her flight because of issues with a new credit card. She said shed let me know once she straightened it out. Dont over-think it, it wasnt about you. If you go tell her you feel the same but then find out you actually don't, you will hurt her far worse. We've been friends for 5-6 years but have gotten pretty close in the past year. See my naked photos here >>> verrywet.com (my Nick Grace2002). 
If you Google it, it should come right up. So dont word vomit all of your deep, pining love for them all at once. Moderators are not employees or representatives of HWZ. yoursisterdebra, "He strung me along for months. Then just about a week ago she said that she feels the same and has felt that way for roughly the same amount of time. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. It's better to just try it out I reckon. Just before she confessed to me I said I didn't really like anyone because she asked who my "secret crush" was. If movies are anything to go by, developing romantic feelings for your best friend is not a rare thing. It was a small town and there wasn't much to do, so I spent all my time with her. Math, you can't go back and forth about your feelings like that. He was the first person I ever came out to. Ive never fallen so hard for someone and Im picking up the pieces now. Regardless, you still have the power to voice your feelings and hope for the best. Its not enough to say that you want to keep them around as a friend if they dont reciprocate your feelings. Have answers ready if they ask you when these feelings started, why youve waited this long to tell them, and anything else you think they might ask. It was so good just to see her in person, laugh, and hang out together that I realized that I didnt need to be, "I harbored a secret crush on my high school friend. Read along below as seven ladies share what happened when they started developing feelings for their best friends. I deleted her from social media and purged her texts, pictures, and phone number. Its possible but very difficult. You need to make sure: 1. Be abundantly clear, and tell them that your feelings on this issue will not change (be I thought I was. I had built up this whole rom-com-level scenario in my head that I would tell her how I feel, she'd have some massive realization that she loved me, and we'd end up together. Not getting into specifics, the jist was: Once someone confesses, you can become an accessory after Before using the site, please read our Privacy Policy and Terms of Use. Similarly, its important to observe them in the days before you confess your feelings to see how they're relating to you emotionally. So be honest with yourself. Be it. So I have a best friend and she is going through a really difficult time. Here are some of their stories: 1. We drifted apart but reconnected our first year of university and lived together in a two-bedroom apartment. I cant be around him anymore. We'd play video games together, work out at the gym together, and go out of our way to dress up to do something special together. Ive been friends with this girl for about a year and a half now and weve grown really close. I still think about her to this day and wonder where wed be if I had answered that Christmas card. After the session, I thought about the whole thing and ended up deciding NOT to attempt to contact again. Just general hurt. So I think I'm bisexual, but, like I have nothing to reference. I told my best friend I have feelings for her. While those can be good, I think relationships should be defined by the people in them, not the people defined by the relationship. Anonymous, Pennsylvania, 18, "He left his studio job very early in his career to focus on his script that hasn't gone anywhere. For the lack of a better phrasing Like an ass. (There was one time before that, where I attempted to call, but this was early on and I hadnt realized she had cut off contact with me, it was actually what made me realize she stopped speaking to me as mentioned above, no warning.). We use cookies to support your experience on our site. He was handsome and he flirted back. Just tell her honestly and if she dont like that then disappear from her life totally and let her consider. I like sex. Remember, you just got some serious ish off your chest, and that should make you feel like you won regardless. Does it get better? Id been psyching myself up to tell her everything to get that last bit of closure, only for her to suddenly drop the ball and say how happy she was with her newest boyfriend. That will make you not seem confident in what you want to say. 2023 BDG Media, Inc. All rights reserved. she will understand so don't be afraid. Join our Home Broadband survey and stand a chance to win $3,000 worth of prizes. It is weird going over to his house since that place is the meeting place for ALL of our friends. I was raised in a fairly traditional household; strong man; emotional woman. "He confessed he wanted to try having sex with a man, even though he was straight. "He thought it was okay that wasn't out because then there might be some chance that I'd become straight. I am going to meet her day after tomorrow but to be honest I don't want to. Also I grew up in a household of straight parents that want me to date a guy, so I was raised with the notion that I would end up with one. WebDream about your guy friend confessing his love to you states emotions and importance. Anonymous, Florida, 30. A little over a week ago I confessed to her that I like her after feeling that way for 3 years. I'm not good with feelings, I'm a pretty middle of the ground chill person and it takes a lot to get me passionate about something. TLDR: Me and my best friend both like each other and we both want to be in a relationship. So how did she find out? angelhernandez, "We were great friends at first, so by the time I developed feelings, we were too intertwined for me to pull away. He was my first love. In Love With Your BFF And Gearing Up To Confess? About a year after we no longer worked together, we went out for drinks. ", "I fell for my best friend and kept it to myself for four years until we left school at 16. I miss my best friend everyday and I want to talk to them, but I somehow feel they don't miss me as much as miss them. And don't forget to hit the subscribe button on The Lover List channel for more fascinating discussions and thought-provoking content.#BestFriendConfession#RelationshipConflict#relationships #DatingAdvice#LoveAdvice#FeelingsInRelationships#MaintainingRelationships#FriendshipAndLove#JealousyInRelationships#BuildingTrust#NavigatingEmotions#CommunicationInRelationships#BalancingRelationships#FriendsAndRomance#ResolvingConflicts#HealthyRelationships#ToughDecisions#StressInRelationships#GrowingInRelationships#TheLoverList Last week, she confessed she is bisexual and has a crush me on. But two days back, she called me threatening to harm herself and I didn't know what to do. Unconditional and true friendship is hard to come by and so is that kind of love. I did not reciprocate, but we remained friends. Part of me wants to say yes and find out if I do like her, but the other part of me thinks that is extremely selfish and a horrible thing to do. ', Im not in love with her anymore, but Im still hurt about that situation." I did write a last letter back. Subscribe to iDiva & get never miss out on the latest trends! If youd like to What did you think she was going to say? So maybe he had a bit of a cuckold fantasy? Anonymous, 23, Illinois. I told her I did want to kiss her then, but because she was my boss, married, and straight, I held back. Everyone blamed me. There was a couple of situations where he tried to get closer, but I pushed back because we were in public settings and I regret it to this day. I think she was a little lonely and my anxiety disorder was really bad at that point. No. Check out the Best of Elite Daily stream in the Bustle App for more stories just like this! In looking after her own needs, your friend hurt you, and you were going through difficult times too. You must be logged in to reply to this topic. This has never happened to me!!! She was 'straight. So what can you even do?! I think a lot of straight people think this is comforting, but it really isnt. You are clearly an emotionally intense person, you would never cut contact with somebody overnight (other than in the most dramatic circumstance), without explanation, and cant understand why anyone would. I was so sure she liked me until I found out shed been dating a guy off-and-on for a year and never told me. Obviously, having the friendship back would be ideal, but I was struggling to move on because I wasnt given a reason. I fantasized about her all the time, often in the middle of meetings. WebI am 16M and my best friend is almost 16F. I think it's better to wait until college or after graduation when both of you are independent. e4ada6546c, "Sober me would have given a reasonable explanation of our friendship not being able to survive this and that my feelings toward her were too deep for a casual hook-up. You dont want to lose your friend, thats for sure. I appreciate a little liquid courage. Just straight trash, you and the husband. Anonymous, United Kingdom, 27, "A month later, she called me and told me she was still coming. We met in college, I honestly think she's my soulmate, I only have brothers and for me, she was What they all had in common was that they were friends dealing with a breakup. Relief. It's not healthy." If she cheated there is a deeper issue they both need to work on. 5. It may hurt, but it makes sense now. It's sad, but it's a possibility you should be prepared for. This is really not a sin, more like something I wanted off my chest and to be honest about. I really don't want to lose her and I'm not sure what I'm supposed to do. We told each other things that we have told no one else. Lol, and what is your side? She puts up with my quietness and doesn't mind that I make her carry the conversation most of the time. And because you two are friends, they may even turn to you for advice! Now, he definitely was a good It was obvious that she was trying to kiss me in an attempt to impress or turn on the guys that were there. I form very strong queer-platonic bonds with people. According to popular opinion, its in your interest to move on from this emotion and keep this great news to yourself, because its bound to cause nothing but trauma to the friendship. We were the type of friends who were always hugging, holding hands, and playing with each other's hair. Nothing feels genuine any more and I really don't know what to do anymore. A little over a week ago I confessed to her that I like her after feeling that way for 3 years. So I didn't. We don't spam, promise. 0 What do you think about this interpretation? The five of us stayed in a hotel with two rooms together and we all hit it off. Understanding. Is it weird if my best friend hangs out with my boyfriend alone without me? A relationship would just be something extra on top of the stresses of school but I can't help but feel a little disappointed and upset. We drifted apart when I went back to grad school and she got back together with her boyfriend (again). It was confusing." It was a tense night. But let's say I do. They have articles and forums about exactly this kind of stuff! I figured there was no way that she was also interested, but told her anyway since we shared everything together. Try talking to her about your feelings and be completely Where does one go from here? No woman is worth all that. My best friend helped me discover a part of myself that I tried so hard to bury, and I live such a full life now because of her. About Cookies on this site. He looked very thoughtful for a moment, then asked me, 'Would it be weird if we made out a bit? We also explore the concept of loyalty and how it can sometimes be a double-edged sword, pulling you in different directions.We draw on advice from relationship experts and real-life experiences to help shed some light on the situation and offer suggestions for what steps the Reddit user can take to find a resolution. And I don't care. It still hurts and I still miss her." If your getting beat call 911 and move on two wrong don't make a right. He was my first love. I couldnt resist the temptation, but I wish I had. I know I am being selfish but I really don't want to pretend any more. Is it that you are just really, REALLY stupid? And I know that both extended families would probably disown me for being the devil's spawn and end up hating me, the girl I would be dating, and my parents. But after seeing your dishwashing routine, I'm pretty much over it.' But you DO NOT feel romantic towards her because otherwise you would have told her you felt the same way -- right on the spot. If thats the case, then your confession will have really paid off. And how could you even justify this? She broke up with me again three months later. I later found out that was the night before she got married to a man. She said I wasn't the type of person she could fall in love with. I think you may discover that sexuality is a little fluid, but if knowing where you are now might help, try this? I know its hard, but youre going to want to be as honest as possible, without revealing too much. So what do you think: Is it best to be honest or hide your crush on a straight friend? Our emotions feel like a moving target, and were ruled by impulses, indecisiveness and FOMO, a combination as lethal as it gets. In a way, it kind of ruined me for relationships because its very hard for me to take girls flirting with me seriously now. That was seven years ago.In retrospect, I was in love with her and allowed myself to think it was at least partially reciprocated because of the attention she gave me when she was single. Please log in OR register. Thats like saying its one of lifes little mysteries why your husband walk out on you. Honestly, it depends if you either still want to be friends with this person or if my best friend confessed to me. We drifted apart over the years, but recently we met up when she was in the area to talk and get breakfast. He hangs out with unsavory folks and still chases 18-year-olds! I really want sex write to me here faster >>> verrywet.com. I was there for her when she was recovering from a surgery. Should I be logical like I always am, or should I follow my heart for the first time and throw cation to the wind? tersicore, "We were spending so much of our free time together. It came as a huge shock to me as I had no idea about it. He never knew, and I mostly pined away in secret. Im out and proud, so he knew I liked men. I have a guy friend ( not best friend but pretty close). But when we went to parties, she'd try to kiss me in front of other people. We became a lot closer as I began to fill that empty space his breakup left. I asked her why she was reaching out now, she said she didn't know, and then blocked me. 
I'm that idiot who loved someone straight, despite knowing the reality that they would never love me back." Best friend confessed her love for menot sure what to do. I am sorry for being anonymous as I can't afford to disclose my identity, u'll get to know as you read. I am also sorry for my disarrayed English b March 27, 2023; Category: Blog; Posted By: Tags: Oh god, yes. Her shitty boyfriend couldn't be bothered to come support her and I had the time and desire to be there for her. Something for everyone interested in hair, makeup, style, and body positivity. He'll still be the love that was not meant to be, but I am thankful that I forged my path for better things., "I was in love with an older woman while I was in the Navy. March It's about us. If movies are anything to go by, developing romantic feelings for your best friend is not a rare thing. When youre ready to talk, make it clear that something has been eating at you for a while, and that youve gone back and forth about it, but you think its important they know. 1. It totally sucks seeing your friend flirt with other people. Suffice to say, a lot more than kissing happened that night. TLDR: Me and my best friend both like each other and we both want to be in a relationship. I thought she might feel that it was a huge violation of privacy and if the friendship is ever going to continue I think that would do far more damage and just stir up bad feelings. 
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Are you displacing some other feelings for another person? I thought about him often. Viewing 5 posts - 1 through 5 (of 5 total), Recovering the Loss of a Very Close Friend, This topic has 3 replies, 3 voices, and was last updated, This topic was modified 8 years, 2 months ago by, This reply was modified 8 years, 2 months ago by. WebIf you do need to say anything well, the best thing is to say hey, I realize things are a little awkward right now, but I want you to know, it's all good and I'm willing to power through the awkward if you are. And then just drop the subject. She told me a month back that she actually had a romantic crush on me during our high school days . She was my favorite person to be around, and one day coming back from a long trip for school she fell asleep on my shoulder. Ive been friends with this girl for about a year and a half now and weve grown really close. Will it pass? Can you really see them as a romantic partner? Her behavior really put me off to the point where not only did I lose feelings, but I wasnt even sure that I wanted to stay friends with her. Also, I understood the fact that she was just trying to come clean butthe fact that she told me this kind of makes me angry. ", "I fell in love very deeply with my high school best friend, and I didnt even notice it until after we graduated and she moved hours away to study at another university. My friend once confessed to a girl he's liked for 1.5 years. I sent her a text asking what was up. One night after we had been drinking, she just straight-up asked, 'Why aren't we hooking up?' I know this may sound strange but it's true. ", "I had just started 10th grade in a new high school full of strangers. The ridiculousness of you and this post, Jesus Christ. Your guilt will only get worst. She was the first girl I fell in love with, and every day I regret the way our friendship ended. WebI am 16M and my best friend is almost 16F. We talked so often over the past few months that I'm going to feel very lonely without being able to talk to her. Since then Ive been in therapy (other reasons: I have some sort of anxiety&depression illness). Maybe youll go on a date and realize it wasnt meant to be. I was in a difficult relationship at the time, so often went to her place. 2. I'm lost about how to fix this. Primary Menu. Help? Its that time of the day again. WebLet me explain I really love my guy best friend and he also cares a lot for me, but it doesn't seem to happen at the same level, so I guess he does not have romantic feelings for me. The content on Tiny Buddha is designed to support, not replace, medical or psychiatric treatment. Its that time of the day again. Coincidentally, she also happens to be straight. I retracted the invite and that was the last time we ever spoke. The bottom line is that he will never be with me. e_a0025, "Hes now married, and I took it hard when it happened. 4. It drives me nuts that I'll never know if he said those things because he was drunk or if something could have actually happened between us." Read iDiva for the latest in Bollywood, fashion looks, beauty and lifestyle news. A couple months later, she told me she had a new boyfriend and would still come to the wedding, but was struggling to book her flight because of issues with a new credit card. She said shed let me know once she straightened it out. Dont over-think it, it wasnt about you. If you go tell her you feel the same but then find out you actually don't, you will hurt her far worse. We've been friends for 5-6 years but have gotten pretty close in the past year. See my naked photos here >>> verrywet.com (my Nick Grace2002). If you Google it, it should come right up. So dont word vomit all of your deep, pining love for them all at once. Moderators are not employees or representatives of HWZ. yoursisterdebra, "He strung me along for months. Then just about a week ago she said that she feels the same and has felt that way for roughly the same amount of time. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. It's better to just try it out I reckon. Just before she confessed to me I said I didn't really like anyone because she asked who my "secret crush" was. If movies are anything to go by, developing romantic feelings for your best friend is not a rare thing. It was a small town and there wasn't much to do, so I spent all my time with her. Math, you can't go back and forth about your feelings like that. He was the first person I ever came out to. Ive never fallen so hard for someone and Im picking up the pieces now. Regardless, you still have the power to voice your feelings and hope for the best. Its not enough to say that you want to keep them around as a friend if they dont reciprocate your feelings. Have answers ready if they ask you when these feelings started, why youve waited this long to tell them, and anything else you think they might ask. It was so good just to see her in person, laugh, and hang out together that I realized that I didnt need to be, "I harbored a secret crush on my high school friend. Read along below as seven ladies share what happened when they started developing feelings for their best friends. I deleted her from social media and purged her texts, pictures, and phone number. Its possible but very difficult. You need to make sure: 1. Be abundantly clear, and tell them that your feelings on this issue will not change (be I thought I was. I had built up this whole rom-com-level scenario in my head that I would tell her how I feel, she'd have some massive realization that she loved me, and we'd end up together. Not getting into specifics, the jist was: Once someone confesses, you can become an accessory after Before using the site, please read our Privacy Policy and Terms of Use. Similarly, its important to observe them in the days before you confess your feelings to see how they're relating to you emotionally. So be honest with yourself. Be it. So I have a best friend and she is going through a really difficult time. Here are some of their stories: 1. We drifted apart but reconnected our first year of university and lived together in a two-bedroom apartment. I cant be around him anymore. We'd play video games together, work out at the gym together, and go out of our way to dress up to do something special together. Ive been friends with this girl for about a year and a half now and weve grown really close. I still think about her to this day and wonder where wed be if I had answered that Christmas card. After the session, I thought about the whole thing and ended up deciding NOT to attempt to contact again. Just general hurt. So I think I'm bisexual, but, like I have nothing to reference. I told my best friend I have feelings for her. While those can be good, I think relationships should be defined by the people in them, not the people defined by the relationship. Anonymous, Pennsylvania, 18, "He left his studio job very early in his career to focus on his script that hasn't gone anywhere. For the lack of a better phrasing Like an ass. (There was one time before that, where I attempted to call, but this was early on and I hadnt realized she had cut off contact with me, it was actually what made me realize she stopped speaking to me as mentioned above, no warning.). We use cookies to support your experience on our site. He was handsome and he flirted back. Just tell her honestly and if she dont like that then disappear from her life totally and let her consider. I like sex. Remember, you just got some serious ish off your chest, and that should make you feel like you won regardless. Does it get better? Id been psyching myself up to tell her everything to get that last bit of closure, only for her to suddenly drop the ball and say how happy she was with her newest boyfriend. That will make you not seem confident in what you want to say. 2023 BDG Media, Inc. All rights reserved. she will understand so don't be afraid. Join our Home Broadband survey and stand a chance to win $3,000 worth of prizes. It is weird going over to his house since that place is the meeting place for ALL of our friends. I was raised in a fairly traditional household; strong man; emotional woman. "He confessed he wanted to try having sex with a man, even though he was straight. "He thought it was okay that wasn't out because then there might be some chance that I'd become straight. I am going to meet her day after tomorrow but to be honest I don't want to. Also I grew up in a household of straight parents that want me to date a guy, so I was raised with the notion that I would end up with one. WebDream about your guy friend confessing his love to you states emotions and importance. Anonymous, Florida, 30. A little over a week ago I confessed to her that I like her after feeling that way for 3 years. I'm not good with feelings, I'm a pretty middle of the ground chill person and it takes a lot to get me passionate about something. TLDR: Me and my best friend both like each other and we both want to be in a relationship. So how did she find out? angelhernandez, "We were great friends at first, so by the time I developed feelings, we were too intertwined for me to pull away. He was my first love. In Love With Your BFF And Gearing Up To Confess? About a year after we no longer worked together, we went out for drinks. ", "I fell for my best friend and kept it to myself for four years until we left school at 16. I miss my best friend everyday and I want to talk to them, but I somehow feel they don't miss me as much as miss them. And don't forget to hit the subscribe button on The Lover List channel for more fascinating discussions and thought-provoking content.#BestFriendConfession#RelationshipConflict#relationships #DatingAdvice#LoveAdvice#FeelingsInRelationships#MaintainingRelationships#FriendshipAndLove#JealousyInRelationships#BuildingTrust#NavigatingEmotions#CommunicationInRelationships#BalancingRelationships#FriendsAndRomance#ResolvingConflicts#HealthyRelationships#ToughDecisions#StressInRelationships#GrowingInRelationships#TheLoverList Last week, she confessed she is bisexual and has a crush me on. But two days back, she called me threatening to harm herself and I didn't know what to do. Unconditional and true friendship is hard to come by and so is that kind of love. I did not reciprocate, but we remained friends. Part of me wants to say yes and find out if I do like her, but the other part of me thinks that is extremely selfish and a horrible thing to do. ', Im not in love with her anymore, but Im still hurt about that situation." I did write a last letter back. Subscribe to iDiva & get never miss out on the latest trends! If youd like to What did you think she was going to say? So maybe he had a bit of a cuckold fantasy? Anonymous, 23, Illinois. I told her I did want to kiss her then, but because she was my boss, married, and straight, I held back. Everyone blamed me. There was a couple of situations where he tried to get closer, but I pushed back because we were in public settings and I regret it to this day. I think she was a little lonely and my anxiety disorder was really bad at that point. No. Check out the Best of Elite Daily stream in the Bustle App for more stories just like this! In looking after her own needs, your friend hurt you, and you were going through difficult times too. You must be logged in to reply to this topic. This has never happened to me!!! She was 'straight. So what can you even do?! I think a lot of straight people think this is comforting, but it really isnt. You are clearly an emotionally intense person, you would never cut contact with somebody overnight (other than in the most dramatic circumstance), without explanation, and cant understand why anyone would. I was so sure she liked me until I found out shed been dating a guy off-and-on for a year and never told me. Obviously, having the friendship back would be ideal, but I was struggling to move on because I wasnt given a reason. I fantasized about her all the time, often in the middle of meetings. WebI am 16M and my best friend is almost 16F. I think it's better to wait until college or after graduation when both of you are independent. e4ada6546c, "Sober me would have given a reasonable explanation of our friendship not being able to survive this and that my feelings toward her were too deep for a casual hook-up. You dont want to lose your friend, thats for sure. I appreciate a little liquid courage. Just straight trash, you and the husband. Anonymous, United Kingdom, 27, "A month later, she called me and told me she was still coming. We met in college, I honestly think she's my soulmate, I only have brothers and for me, she was What they all had in common was that they were friends dealing with a breakup. Relief. It's not healthy." If she cheated there is a deeper issue they both need to work on. 5. It may hurt, but it makes sense now. It's sad, but it's a possibility you should be prepared for. This is really not a sin, more like something I wanted off my chest and to be honest about. I really don't want to lose her and I'm not sure what I'm supposed to do. We told each other things that we have told no one else. Lol, and what is your side? She puts up with my quietness and doesn't mind that I make her carry the conversation most of the time. And because you two are friends, they may even turn to you for advice! Now, he definitely was a good It was obvious that she was trying to kiss me in an attempt to impress or turn on the guys that were there. I form very strong queer-platonic bonds with people. According to popular opinion, its in your interest to move on from this emotion and keep this great news to yourself, because its bound to cause nothing but trauma to the friendship. We were the type of friends who were always hugging, holding hands, and playing with each other's hair. Nothing feels genuine any more and I really don't know what to do anymore. A little over a week ago I confessed to her that I like her after feeling that way for 3 years. So I didn't. We don't spam, promise. 0 What do you think about this interpretation? The five of us stayed in a hotel with two rooms together and we all hit it off. Understanding. Is it weird if my best friend hangs out with my boyfriend alone without me? A relationship would just be something extra on top of the stresses of school but I can't help but feel a little disappointed and upset. We drifted apart when I went back to grad school and she got back together with her boyfriend (again). It was confusing." It was a tense night. But let's say I do. They have articles and forums about exactly this kind of stuff! I figured there was no way that she was also interested, but told her anyway since we shared everything together. Try talking to her about your feelings and be completely Where does one go from here? No woman is worth all that. My best friend helped me discover a part of myself that I tried so hard to bury, and I live such a full life now because of her. About Cookies on this site. He looked very thoughtful for a moment, then asked me, 'Would it be weird if we made out a bit? We also explore the concept of loyalty and how it can sometimes be a double-edged sword, pulling you in different directions.We draw on advice from relationship experts and real-life experiences to help shed some light on the situation and offer suggestions for what steps the Reddit user can take to find a resolution. And I don't care. It still hurts and I still miss her." If your getting beat call 911 and move on two wrong don't make a right. He was my first love. I couldnt resist the temptation, but I wish I had. I know I am being selfish but I really don't want to pretend any more. Is it that you are just really, REALLY stupid? And I know that both extended families would probably disown me for being the devil's spawn and end up hating me, the girl I would be dating, and my parents. But after seeing your dishwashing routine, I'm pretty much over it.' But you DO NOT feel romantic towards her because otherwise you would have told her you felt the same way -- right on the spot. If thats the case, then your confession will have really paid off. And how could you even justify this? She broke up with me again three months later. I later found out that was the night before she got married to a man. She said I wasn't the type of person she could fall in love with. I think you may discover that sexuality is a little fluid, but if knowing where you are now might help, try this? I know its hard, but youre going to want to be as honest as possible, without revealing too much. So what do you think: Is it best to be honest or hide your crush on a straight friend? Our emotions feel like a moving target, and were ruled by impulses, indecisiveness and FOMO, a combination as lethal as it gets. In a way, it kind of ruined me for relationships because its very hard for me to take girls flirting with me seriously now. That was seven years ago.In retrospect, I was in love with her and allowed myself to think it was at least partially reciprocated because of the attention she gave me when she was single. Please log in OR register. Thats like saying its one of lifes little mysteries why your husband walk out on you. Honestly, it depends if you either still want to be friends with this person or if my best friend confessed to me. We drifted apart over the years, but recently we met up when she was in the area to talk and get breakfast. He hangs out with unsavory folks and still chases 18-year-olds! I really want sex write to me here faster >>> verrywet.com. I was there for her when she was recovering from a surgery. Should I be logical like I always am, or should I follow my heart for the first time and throw cation to the wind? tersicore, "We were spending so much of our free time together. It came as a huge shock to me as I had no idea about it. He never knew, and I mostly pined away in secret. Im out and proud, so he knew I liked men. I have a guy friend ( not best friend but pretty close). But when we went to parties, she'd try to kiss me in front of other people. We became a lot closer as I began to fill that empty space his breakup left. I asked her why she was reaching out now, she said she didn't know, and then blocked me. I'm that idiot who loved someone straight, despite knowing the reality that they would never love me back." Best friend confessed her love for menot sure what to do. I am sorry for being anonymous as I can't afford to disclose my identity, u'll get to know as you read. I am also sorry for my disarrayed English b March 27, 2023; Category: Blog; Posted By: Tags: Oh god, yes. Her shitty boyfriend couldn't be bothered to come support her and I had the time and desire to be there for her. Something for everyone interested in hair, makeup, style, and body positivity. He'll still be the love that was not meant to be, but I am thankful that I forged my path for better things., "I was in love with an older woman while I was in the Navy. March It's about us. If movies are anything to go by, developing romantic feelings for your best friend is not a rare thing. When youre ready to talk, make it clear that something has been eating at you for a while, and that youve gone back and forth about it, but you think its important they know. 1. It totally sucks seeing your friend flirt with other people. Suffice to say, a lot more than kissing happened that night. TLDR: Me and my best friend both like each other and we both want to be in a relationship. I thought she might feel that it was a huge violation of privacy and if the friendship is ever going to continue I think that would do far more damage and just stir up bad feelings. Your heart is still wounded but that poison has gone. I work there too as a substitute teacher. 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